This is a four part series. Please see the link at the end of this article to read the next part in the series.
In the first part of the series found in Part 1, we talked about loving our bodies while still wanting to improve them. No one is the world has a perfect body. By the same token, no one has your body. You are amazing and unique in your own way.
Remember You Are Amazing and Unique
I think of Stephen Hawkins, a genius with a disease called ASL. He could not move or even breathe on his own. Yet he could feel everything. He could feel his breathe going in and out, he could feel a feather on his skin. His mind worked at genius level. His body was far from perfect, but he was grateful for what he could do.
Think of the things your body can do. If you can run, walk, lift, bend, dance, feel the wind in your face, touch a delicate flower, and millions of other things, you are amazing. If you can play the piano, violin, do a back bend, a cartwheel, knit, eat, talk, sing, or paint you have talents that bless others. Think of what you can do and relish in it. Many in the world may not be able to walk, but they can sing, or write, or see. What amazing things can your body do?
How Do You Feel About The Things You Can Do?
If you can run, how does that make you feel? Particularly how does it make you feel about your feet and legs? Is it a negative or positive feeling? If you enjoy singing, how does that make you feel about your neck and lungs? Your mouth, nose and head space? Is it negative or positive? Have you ever looked in the mirror and only seen the negative? Maybe your legs are too thin or too thick, or your nose isn’t the right shape. Yet we forget how far those legs can carry us or how our nose helps our voice when we sing.
Do not ignore or feel guilty for those negative feelings, just do not dwell on them. Focus instead on the positive emotions. The joy of singing or running or whatever you enjoy.
Focus On The Positive
Think about other things that may not be so pretty. For example, I gave birth to four children, one by cesarean. When I see the stretch marks and scars, I try to feel pride that my body was able to make four people.
I also have been blessed with wonderful arms that happen to have some loose skin hanging down. Sitting in Sunday School with a couple of active four-year-olds and one of them started playing with the skin on my arms, pushing it back and forth. I am a little sensitive about my arms, but then the little boy called them “grandma arms”. Suddenly my perspective changed and I smiled. I am a grandma, I love being a grandma. This sweet child associated my arms with one of the best parts of me. My grandma arms are now one of the things I love about my body. I still try to do arm exercises to firm them up, but now it is not out of shame, it is out of love for my arms.
Find what is unique and wonderful about you. Chances are those are the things you love and miss about yourself the most.
This is Part 2 of a five part series to continue reading go to Part 3 Be Kind To Yourself.