This is a four part series. Please see the link at the bottom of the page to read other parts of this series.
In the previous article, Part 2 of this series, we discussed how each of us has a distinct and wonderful body that can do amazing things. In this part of the series we will delve into how we can be our own best friend. Building a better body image is not a one and done deal. It is a process. Chances are you have been battling a negative body image most of your life, it is not something you will change overnight.
I am taking you slowly through a process I have used many times to help myself, as well as others wanting to lose weight. Often I find people feel that losing weight will help them gain self confidence. This simply is not the case. While losing weight, or getting fit, or having surgery may help you feel more comfortable in your skin, if you do not love yourself now, as you are, those things will not change how you feel about yourself. Building a better body image begins now. You can learn to love yourself as you are, now.
Positive Self Talk; Be Kind To Yourself
Most of us have a constant flow of talk going through our minds. It may be our grocery list, replaying a conversation we had or a conversation we will have. Think about how you talk to yourself. Most of the self talk we have in our head is negative or abusive. When you eat too much, or look in the mirror, what feelings do you have? Feelings of shame, resignation, blame? How do you talk do yourself? Do you beat yourself up or or belittle yourself? How do you feel after you talk to yourself like this? I am going to guess that you do not feel better about yourself or want to try something positive!
Be Your Own Best Friend
If you had a friend who ate too much or felt bad about herself how would you talk to them? Would you belittle or shame them or would you encourage and help them? You are your best friend. You may think how you talk to yourself does not matter. But you can hurt your own feelings by abusing and shaming yourself. The next time you are in a situation where you are negatively self talking, listen to yourself. Would you talk to your best friend that way? If not, turn it around and speak to yourself as you would your best friend, because that’s who you are!
This is part three of this five part series To continue go to Part 4 Improve Yourself With Love